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Imperfect is Human

There is a campaign going on for the next 3 days (March 4-6), Imperfect is Normal to shed light on the FACT that #imperfectishuman.


It’s a campaign targeted at women, but us men share the same needs to grasp for perfection and show our better sides rather than our faults or our realities. It’s human instinct to hide our problems, protect our faults, and ensure no one gets to see our weaknesses as this will put us below others in this hierarchical society we live.

Imperfections! Man, I have them. Lots of them and everybody does. It makes me human, it’s what makes me real, and what makes me unique. Do I grasp them and live them fully, hell no! Like everyone else I protect them as I don’t want to appear weak, incapable, worthless, or un-human. It’s about fitting in right?!

Here’s my confession of the real me.
All the tips I post, the reminders, and the suggestions on how to live life better, those are my faults and my weaknesses. These post are not suggestions for you, they are not me as the perfect husband/child/worker/parent trying to tell you how to live, they are not me telling you to live life by the day and don’t stress or dread on the little moments, they are not me telling you to live outside your comfort zone as you have unlimited potential. These posts, these messages, these quotes, the reminders....are all selfishly for me. 

These are the aspects of life I struggle with and I seek constant reminder to drive myself forward positively. I struggle living in the moment and often take life too seriously, I sometimes struggle pushing myself outside my comfort zone as it’s uncomfortable, I struggle to be a good father or a great husband as I get consumed on completing tasks and miss life that is happening before my eyes, I struggle with putting things off thinking that tomorrow might be better or I might have more time, I struggle staying active enough to look after my health and look at myself negatively, I struggle living wholeheartedly with my family and particularly my amazing wife who I often feel I don’t deserve, I struggle with my mind and blame myself constantly for anything wrong in my family life or work. 
I often feel as though I’m carrying an extra set of deadweight, uphill, in deep snow (like in this picture).

My blog, my posts, and my writing is generally geared towards reminding me to be a better person and keep pushing myself forward to right my wrongs. I put it out there for two reasons; to hold myself accountable to these lessons, and to share these lessons with others in hopes you might relate and find a better you in there.

I’m far from anything perfect. I have lots of issues and am the toughest person on myself, mental games with thinking I’m not doing enough in life. I fear I’m getting older, am afraid of being older and looking back with regrets. I think about this often, it plays on my mind lots!

“Everyday I get a little bit closer,
One day I'll be there.
Everyday I get a little bit older, wish I came prepared.
One day I'll be a little bit bolder, and wiser, and kinder.
One day I will.”

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