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Full Potential - Own your Life

“You either walk inside your story & own it or you stand outside your story & hustle for your worthiness.” Brene Brown

Sadly, our society is inundated with physical and mental abusers. Those that enact harm and hatred onto others, in a conscious or subconscious attempt to ruin their existence as a human. They exist both physically and mentally with neither being any less harmful than the other, while frequently overlapping. 

There is often a worse set of these abusers that get into our heads mentally in the most negative of ways and create the most detrimental of physical abuse to our bodies, ourselves. 

A large majority of the time, we abuse ourselves much worse than any external factor. We drive negative self talk, self doubt, resistance to positive thinking, and thoughts of inadequacy around our general life. We abuse our bodies with harmful food and drinks (or even drugs), lack of regular physical activity, ignoring pain our body is displaying, and not getting proper rest, relaxation, or nutrition.

One of the only ways to rid ourselves of these internal demons is to confront them, accept them, spotlight them, and learn to control them daily before they control us. 
Recognizing what puts us in this state of abuse on ourselves, determining triggers and continuously dragging that abuse out into the light. 

I deal with this, you deal with this, we all deal with this. 

We all have our own demons, keeping us from living life to our fullest potential and applying abuse onto ourselves in one way or another. We either recognize it and are unhappy because of it, we ignore it as a regular course of life that is ok, or we recognize it and do all within our power to correct it. 

Life will never be perfect in this way, otherwise we’d live a life of vegetables and tasteless food or really not enjoy many aspects of life that are worth enjoying. It’s all about finding balance and harmony within this and being sure this abuse does not control you. You need to stay on top of the control over yourself, don’t be your abuser or add additional abuse onto your life.

We often hold ourselves back from our greatest potential by talking ourselves out of that step, we fear the failure. We keep ourselves in our rut of laziness due to our self talk of how busy we are, how we don’t have the time, how I can’t do it. We stay safe in life, take the easy road, and often create this world of abuse due to our awe of those people doing the things we wanted to do, living a life of regrets. These can be detrimental on our mindset, in not taking the chance for fear of failure we also look back with regret that we are a failure for not taking the chance in life.

Perfection is impossible, but we can always be better and create a world where others have the avenue to better themselves. It’s up to us to end this personal abuse on ourselves.

After the marathon I searched hard for what my ‘why’ was in committing to running that distance over a short period of training. I thought my ‘why’ was simply in helping those less fortunate to get off the streets and those families and children into homes. Ultimately it was. But deep down it was to open up resources for those less fortunate to be able to confront their personal internal and external demons. It was also so that none of those children had to live a life being controlled by mental and physical abuse, controlling their opportunities in life, and forcing them away from the potential that lies within them.

For the marathon I also made a conscious decision to make a positive change in my own physical health. I was in a winter rut, that physical abuse of limited activity, and needed a change in how I approached consistency with fitness and health. Setting myself a goal gave me something to work towards that was beyond me, I was doing it for others which kept me accountable to it. Physical abuse onto yourself rolls into mental abuse, mental abuse onto ourself rolls into physical abuse. It’s a vicious cycle, a rut we often call it, tough to get out of once in.

Personally I tell my story, not only to myself but out in the spotlight. This is how I deal with being ahead of mental and physical ruts. The more open and vulnerable I am with it, the more it lacks the ability to control my life. I take control when I don’t fear it, because I know it exists and I don’t run from it.

It’s important to find your abuse, both mental and physical, so that you can take control of it. Your own internal abuse, as this limits your potential to be great and to be great for others.


DadBud

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